Remember that this is just a quiz and it doesn’t say anything about what your life is really like. Maybe just some of the things we write about here described your relationship. Think about how your relationship makes you feel. You can use the exercise at the bottom of the page or chat with us here to talk about your thoughts and anything you’re wondering about.
Being able to be yourself is an important part of any relationship. There may be some things you don’t feel comfortable with at the beginning of a relationship before you’ve got to know each other. But after that first “getting-to-know each other” time you should be able to be yourself 100%. The person you’re with should want to be with you because of who you are, not because you will become someone else.
We are often taught that jealousy is a sign of “true love” or that someone really cares about us. That’s not true. Jealousy comes from a need to control and an insecurity. It’s not something you should have to put up with and if it affects you negatively then it’s never acceptable.
Remember that your messages belong to you, no one else has the right to read them; not to read them secretly, or to demand to read them, or to be given your passwords.
Someone wanting to know where you are or who you’re with once in a while isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but if it happens repeatedly, it could be a sign that the person you’re in a relationship with wants to control and keep an eye on you. It is never okay and is a type of psychological violence that you can read more about here.
Are you unsure about what you think about your relationship? Does it make you happy, sad, angry or anxious? Here you can read about what a healthy relationship can be like and here you can read about the warning signs to watch out for. You can also chat with us about your thoughts, questions and anything you are wondering about.
Think about which three words best describe your relationship:
Honesty, Humour, Closeness, Accusations, Conversation, Sex, Suspicion, Jealousy, Love, Control, Balance, Equality, Safety, Silent conflicts, Loud conflicts, Time for yourself, Anger, Sadness, Happiness, Insecurity, Worry, Lies, Deceit, Communication